Do what you'd normally do then, ask how they're doing, ask how work has been, etc." —Martin Goetz, Facebook "Don't be afraid to be upfront about being an introvert with your date.
Introversion can be misread as a lack of interest to some people, so it's always better to say 'I'm an introvert' than to let them think you aren't enjoying their company." —Emily Weeden, Facebook "Become friends with people.
So, as you think about the upcoming event, you start re-living all of the past disastrous first dates you have had—your short, curt responses to questions asked, your inability to keep a flow of conversation going, those awkward “good nights.” And the shallow breaths are now accompanied by that grinding in the pit of your stomach.
While no magic wand can take your introversion away, there are some things you can do to master the art of the first date.
There is comfort in knowing that it will be short up front, and you will have far less dread or stress.
And, if thing goes well, that short chunk of time can always be extended into dinner or something else.
It made me more comfortable knowing the area, what kind of food there was, etc., so I could focus on the person and talking to them rather than the atmosphere or what I would order." —Stephanie Combs, Facebook "Go to events your more extroverted friends invite you to.
Even if that means saying no to bingeing on another series!
I was jealous of extroverts who felt energized interacting with people, because I always needed a lot of time on my own to recover after social situations.
Should you decide that you want some new shoes or even a new outfit for your date, go for it. Don’t buy a pair of shoes or an outfit that isn’t “you.” And don’t get a brand new haircut.
Here’s the thing about such changes: You will spend the date being very self-conscious because you are not comfortable with such a change.
First dates are stressful enough; but when you are an introvert, they can be panic-inducing.
You already don’t do well with meeting new people, but meeting someone you know will be “sizing you up” is definitely shallow breathing time.