However, keep your eyes open to potential problems before giving too much of your heart to him.
It’s better to know what to look for and bail out early then waste years of your life with a widower who’s not ready to make you the center of his universe.
His spouse of 27 years passed away four months ago, after a very long (21 years) battle with Multiple Sclerosis.
He still grieves for her at times when he’s reminded of her, but he is moving on with his life.
From them I’ve noticed some patterns of behavior that indicate the widower isn’t ready for a serious relationship and just using the woman to temporarily fill the void created by the death of his late wife.
If the widower you’re dating has one or more of the red flags below, don’t take it to mean that the relationship is doomed or that that issues can’t be resolved.
Support systems are emblematic of the female experience; men do not cultivate support structures in the same way women do.
Does a man's brooding brand of anguish turn too soon to a quest for companionship and (ultimately) sex?
Perhaps you are recently divorced and now you find yourself exploring available men online. Have you heard that widowers are great dates, who know what they want and are ready to get it?
Those are big changes for any person, but it would appear that for the widower, this growth is marked not by the passage of time but by how he handles the cards that are dealt to him.
~ Julie Donner Andersen I’m at the very beginning of a potential relationship with a guy who I’ve reconnected with after many years (we knew each other in high school).
Our culture mandates no "correct" grieving process, and grieving is unique to every individual, but most experts agree that men and women mourn in different ways.
Women are less likely than men to seek comfort in sex while grief endures, says a writer at hellogrief.org, citing one reason why a women who is dating a widower "might be amazed that he wants to make love to you." Silent brooding, isolation, and even anger are stock elements of male behavior, while women tend to "talk it out" with close friends.